Civil marriage ceremony

Translated into ASL by David Bar-Tzur

Created 30 March 2005, links updated monthly with the help of LinkAlarm.

EXPLANATION OF THE GLOSSING SYSTEM
(to understand how I describe the signs in this translation).

We are gathered here at this time to witness and to celebrate the coming together of two separate lives. We have come to witness the joining of (name of groom) and (name of bride) in marriage; to be with them and rejoice with them in the making of this important and everlasting commitment. It is a decision not to be entered into lightly, but rather undertaken with great consideration and respect for both the other person and oneself.

WE GATHER-TOGETHER1 HERE TODAY FOR-FOR? (<) WITNESS, (>) CELEBRATE, TWO SEPARATE LIVE MERGE. WE COME FOR-FOR? WITNESS (<) (name of groom) (>) (name of bride) MARRY*. WANT SUPPORT++ TWO-OF-THEM GO-AHEAD PROMISE, SELF-INDEX2 IMPORTANT FOREVER. DECIDE MARRY NOTHING-TO-IT? #NO. BEFORE-THAT THINK-ABOUT CAREFUL MUST. RESPECT-lf, RESPECT-rt.

Marriage symbolizes the ultimate sharing of two lives. It must not diminish, but rather should enhance the individuality of each partner. We give ourselves in love, but we do not give ourselves away. A good and balanced relationship is one in which neither person is overpowered or absorbed by the other.

MARRY, SYMBOL TWO-OF-YOU SHARE ONE* LIFE. MEAN TWO-OF-YOU LOSE-SELF-ESTEEM3, STACK-ONE-ON-OTHER4, NOT-THAT. BOTH GAIN-SELF-ESTEEM5, STACK-ONE-ON-OTHER, DOUBLE.* RELATIONSHIP HAVE GOOD BALANCE, MEAN NOT rt-OPPRESS-1-CL6, NOT lf-OPPRESS-1-CL6.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it down not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, self-seeking or easily angered. Love keeps nor record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

LOVE MEAN PATIENT. LOVE MEAN KIND. NOT JEALOUS, NOT BRAG, NOT BIG-HEADED. NOT RUDE, NOT alt.ME, NOT EASY BLOW-STACK. NOT alt.WRONG, FINE, MAKE-LIST. LOVE, NOT THRILLED BAD HAPPEN, BUT CELEBRATE TRUTH CONQUER LIE. LOVE, ALWAYS PROTECT, ALWAYS TRUST, ALWAYS HOPE, ALWAYS STUBBORN*. FAIL, NEVER.

We are here today, then, to celebrate the love which (name of groom) and (name of bride) have for each other, and to recognize - to witness - their decision to take each other totally and permanently. Into this bond of marriage these two people now come to be united.

TODAY WE HERE FOR-FOR? CELEBRATE (name of groom) AND (name of bride) LOVE EACH-OTHER. PLUS RECOGNIZE AND WITNESS TWO-OF-THEM DECIDE STAY TOGETHER ONE-HUNDRED PERCENT CONTINUE"over time". NOW TWO-OF-THEM COME MARRY, lf-RELATED-TO-rt.

I ask you now to witness with me the expression of these parties' understanding and intent.

NOW I REQUEST #ALL-OF-YOU7 WITNESS WITH ME WHILE TWO-OF-THEM PROMISE INDEX-LIST8.

(To man) Do you, (name of groom), take (name of bride) as your wife, from this day forward, for better/for worse, for richer/for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love, honor and cherish her, keeping yourself only unto her for as long as you both shall live? (If so, answer "I do".)

(name of groom), I-ASK-you, D-O YOU TAKE-UP9 (name of bride) BECOME YOUR WIFE FROM-NOW-ON FOREVER? LIFE (<) SKYROCKET, PLUNGE (>), DOESN'T-MATTER. (<) RICH, POOR (>), DOESN'T-MATTER. (<) SICK, HEALTHY (>), DOESN'T-MATTER. YOU PROMISE LOVE, HONOR, CHERISH H-E-R? ALL YOUR LOVE OFFER H-E-R ONLY, WHILE TWO-OF-YOU ALIVE? (IF YES, ANSWER, "I D-O.")

(To woman) Do you, (name of bride), take (name of groom) become your husband, , from this day forward, for better/for worse, for richer/for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love, honor and cherish her, keeping yourself only unto her for as long as you both shall live? (If so, answer "I do".)

(name of bride), I-ASK-you, D-O YOU TAKE-UP (name of groom) BECOME YOUR HUSBAND FROM-NOW-ON FOREVER? LIFE (<) SKYROCKET10, PLUNGE10 (>), DOESN'T-MATTER. (<) RICH, POOR (>), DOESN'T-MATTER. (<) SICK, HEALTHY (>), DOESN'T-MATTER. YOU PROMISE LOVE, HONOR, CHERISH H-I-M? ALL YOUR LOVE OFFER H-I-M ONLY, WHILE TWO-OF-YOU ALIVE? (IF YES, ANSWER, "I D-O.")

(If ring, man to repeat) With this ring, I thee wed, and pledge thee, my love.

(name of groom), PLEASE COPY-me: RING I HOLD SHOW"all" I MARRY YOU, PLUS PROMISE MY LOVE.

(If ring, woman to repeat) With this ring, I thee wed, and pledge thee, my love.

(name of bride), PLEASE COPY-me: RING I HOLD SHOW"all" I MARRY YOU, PLUS PROMISE MY LOVE.

(if ring/rings) These wedding rings are outward and visible signs of an inward union of hearts. As you look upon these rings from day to day may they be symbols of warmth, love and understanding. May they help you to honor the promises you have made together on this day.

WEDDING RING SHOW"all" INSIDE-SELF (2h)THEIR HEART TWO-HEARTS-JOIN-AS-ONE11 ONE*. EVERY-DAY TWO-OF-YOU LOOK-AT-RING, REMEMBER REPRESENT WARM LOVE LEAD-TO (2h)alt.UNDERSTANDING. HOPE RING HELP TWO-OF-YOU FOLLOW PROMISE INDEX-LIST TWO-OF-YOU SAY TOGETHER TODAY.

Because (name of groom) and (name of bride) have now declared to each other (and to these witnesses/this gathering) their intention to take each other as husband and wife, affirming their acceptance of the responsibilities of such a union, and have pledged their love and faith to each other, (sealing their vows in the giving and receiving of rings), and pursuant to the authority vested in me by the State of New York, I do now declared they are husband and wife. Let all people everywhere recognize and respect this union.

(name of groom) AND (name of bride) RECENTLY ANNOUNCE EACH-OTHER PLUS AUDIENCE HERE TWO-OF-THEM INTEND TAKE-UP EACH-OTHER BECOME (<) HUSBAND (>) WIFE. TWO-OF-THEM PROMISE ACCEPT EVERY RESPONSIBILITY INVOLVED. TWO-OF-THEM PROMISE LOVE EACH-OTHER ONLY*. RING SHOW"all" (2h)alt.THEIR12 PROMISE DEFINITE13. KNOW-THAT NEW-YORK STATE GIVE-TO-me POWER ANNOUNCE TWO-OF-THEM NOW OFFICIAL (<) HUSBAND (>) WIFE. (2h)#ALL14 PEOPLE (<) RECOGNIZE, (>) RESPECT lf-RELATED-TO-rt MUST.

Footnotes

  1. GATHER-TOGETHER: (2h)[S], POs > signer, FOs > up, open hands to (2h)[5] and move > signer while FT wg to show people assembling here.
  2. SELF-INDEX: [A], PO > NDS, FO away, taps twice on thumb side of [1], PO > DS, FO up.
  3. LOSE-SELF-ESTEEM: [C], PO > NDS, FO up, is held against chest and closes to [O^] with thumb still in its original place. NDH [B], PO down, FO > DS, can be held under DH.
  4. STACK-ONE-ON-OTHER: (2h)[B], DHPO up, NDHPO down, FOs away, DH pronates onto top of NDH.
  5. GAIN-SELF-ESTEEM: [O^], PO > NDS, FO up, is held against chest and opens to [C] with thumb still in its original place. NDH [B], PO down, FO > DS, can be held under DH.
  6. rt-OPPRESS-1-CL: Palm of DH [B] pushes down [1] > NDS so that is FO changes from up to diagonally away. Similarly for lf-OPPRESS-1-CL.
  7. #ALL-OF-YOU: [A], PO away, FO up, sweeps in arc from DS to NDS while opening to an [L] and changing to PO up, FO away.
  8. INDEX-LIST: Index finger of DH points three times to NDH [5], PO > signer, FO > DS while DH moves down.
  9. TAKE-UP: (2h)[5:], POs down, FOs away, ascend while closing to (2h)[S].
  10. SKYROCKET, PLUNGE: The first is [Bb], FO away, PO diagonally up, rushes up, brushing past palm of [B], PO > DS, FO away. The second is [Bb], FO away, PO diagonally down, rushes down, brushing past palm of [B], PO > DS, FO diagonally down.
  11. TWO-HEARTS-JOIN-AS-ONE: Both hands are PO ><, FOs up. The handshape is non-standard and poetic. Hands are similar to a [C] but FT curl more and thumbs point diagonally down so that when the hands touch they look like a valentine's heart. The hands are brought together deliberately from separation to show the joining of two half-hearts.
  12. (2h)alt.THEIR: (2h)[B], POs > respective sides, FOs up, alt. move diagonally towards respective sides.
  13. DEFINITE: (2h)[5], POs ><, FOs away, move down quickly and end in (2h)[F]. Looks like decide but the descent is emphatic.
  14. (2h)#ALL: (2h)[A], POs ><, FOs up, move away while opening to (2h)[L].

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